****The only words I changed in this blog post from his writings is that of spelling corrections.****
In a recent conversation with my wonderful SSS, as often we
do, we where discussing various topics of importance when she brought an
interesting point to my attention. Do men who are married seem to achieve more
in there careers and in there personal life? Indeed my answer was a resounding
“You Betch’a.” Not to discount the many great things that single men have
accomplished abut I have actually had this same conversation with many of my
single and married friends.
First of all it is not that men are unmotivated in general
(although many women hold this opinion) indeed most men are simply comfortable
with things women usually find appalling. Left to our own devices most men are
content to lay around the house in their boxers watching the game and putting cheese
wiz on their fast food tacos. It really is fun you should try it. Our bed would
be lucky to have matching pillow cases and blanket. We find happiness in
comfort and the simple things in life. But unfortunately this can also lead us
enjoy these creature comforts so much that we become what you might say too
comfortable or set in our ways. Thus the female of the species enters the
picture. She also enjoys a few creature comforts of her own but in general is
not content to sit in silence with the smell of cheesy tacos soaking into the
couch. Women challenge us! They may want curtains on the windows, or perhaps
that more than two things in a room match a set theme or color. They enjoy
order in their life in one way or another. The male can find this very unusual.
Women why exactly do we need extra decorated pillows on our bed that we will
never use? I still don’t get it but I guess that is not the point. A woman in
our lives make things inextricably complicated, we have to worry about feelings
and the complicated social structure you share with your friends. We endure the
torture of the long list of projects and cleaning routines, and sometimes it
can really drive us mad! So why get married? If there is one thing my meager 6
years of marriage has taught me it is that you never can predict how the
combining of two lives and souls can affect you. You will find yourself
becoming accustomed to the lavender smell in the bathroom or the light the lace
curtains make your living room not to dark or not to bright. That’s not all
folks! Besides the obvious non-PG13 benefits of being in love, you may find a
strange social phenomenon. That fact that she shares your concerns and dreams,
you will find yourself sharing hers as well. After a bad day you will find a
caring person instead of a can of aerosol cheese, and yes you will find
yourself wanting to be more not just for her but for yourself. There has never
been a greater opportunity for service for me than in my marriage. My wife has
challenged me, brought joy into even the most mundane times of my life and has
been a motivator for the betterment of myself.