****The only words I changed in this blog post from his writings is that of spelling corrections.****
In a recent conversation with my wonderful SSS, as often we do, we where discussing various topics of importance when she brought an interesting point to my attention. Do men who are married seem to achieve more in there careers and in there personal life? Indeed my answer was a resounding “You Betch’a.” Not to discount the many great things that single men have accomplished abut I have actually had this same conversation with many of my single and married friends.
First of all it is not that men are unmotivated in general (although many women hold this opinion) indeed most men are simply comfortable with things women usually find appalling. Left to our own devices most men are content to lay around the house in their boxers watching the game and putting cheese wiz on their fast food tacos. It really is fun you should try it. Our bed would be lucky to have matching pillow cases and blanket. We find happiness in comfort and the simple things in life. But unfortunately this can also lead us enjoy these creature comforts so much that we become what you might say too comfortable or set in our ways. Thus the female of the species enters the picture. She also enjoys a few creature comforts of her own but in general is not content to sit in silence with the smell of cheesy tacos soaking into the couch. Women challenge us! They may want curtains on the windows, or perhaps that more than two things in a room match a set theme or color. They enjoy order in their life in one way or another. The male can find this very unusual. Women why exactly do we need extra decorated pillows on our bed that we will never use? I still don’t get it but I guess that is not the point. A woman in our lives make things inextricably complicated, we have to worry about feelings and the complicated social structure you share with your friends. We endure the torture of the long list of projects and cleaning routines, and sometimes it can really drive us mad! So why get married? If there is one thing my meager 6 years of marriage has taught me it is that you never can predict how the combining of two lives and souls can affect you. You will find yourself becoming accustomed to the lavender smell in the bathroom or the light the lace curtains make your living room not to dark or not to bright. That’s not all folks! Besides the obvious non-PG13 benefits of being in love, you may find a strange social phenomenon. That fact that she shares your concerns and dreams, you will find yourself sharing hers as well. After a bad day you will find a caring person instead of a can of aerosol cheese, and yes you will find yourself wanting to be more not just for her but for yourself. There has never been a greater opportunity for service for me than in my marriage. My wife has challenged me, brought joy into even the most mundane times of my life and has been a motivator for the betterment of myself.